tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post3790286670344511923..comments2024-01-12T11:26:35.176-05:00Comments on Working Stiffs: Group ProcessWorking Stiffshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03270595837074553752noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-36509762587331717932007-10-07T20:13:00.000-04:002007-10-07T20:13:00.000-04:00Gina,My dad always used to talk about baking ex-la...Gina,<BR/>My dad always used to talk about baking ex-lax cookies as punishment, so I found your cake laced with laxative very funny. <BR/><BR/>Tory, <BR/>Thanks for the advice. I'll try confronting him calmly the next time. I may need more of your services in the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-21174970661862944432007-10-07T17:47:00.000-04:002007-10-07T17:47:00.000-04:00I prefer to think, Nancy, that writing in first pe...I prefer to think, Nancy, that writing in first person helps the writer become more aware of how people develop their impressions of others (and what they miss) and therefore makes one more sympathetic to our earthly limitations as human beings.<BR/><BR/>It definitely tickles me to think of myself as being "omniscient" during a role play. When we debrief it after, however, I'm mostly aware of how much is going on and how I can't possibly keep track of it all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-21283757117732330852007-10-07T17:06:00.000-04:002007-10-07T17:06:00.000-04:00Tory, this is fascinating, and has many applicatio...Tory, this is fascinating, and has many applications in writing fiction. I'm also struck by the role POV plays. In your situation, every individual remains in their own POV, yet you, as the facilitator, must be aware of all POVs. (No wonder you're so perceptive!) I prefer to write in first person, so communcating how other characters think and feel is challenging. All thoughts and feelings must be processed via the single, POV character. (And therefore, that character becomes clearer and clearer to the writer as books progress.) But does working in first person make a writer into a self-centered SOB??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-8881812143405019662007-10-07T10:05:00.000-04:002007-10-07T10:05:00.000-04:00Tory -No, but it made everyone else feel better ab...Tory -<BR/>No, but it made everyone else feel better about it.<BR/>I'm not sure what would have made her stop. Maybe mousetraps in the breadbox? It wasn't possible to discuss it with her, since she denied doing it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-77752029447378157002007-10-07T08:43:00.000-04:002007-10-07T08:43:00.000-04:00Gina: That does sound satisfying, but did it stop ...Gina: That does sound satisfying, but did it stop her from stealing food?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-87556114908327361952007-10-07T07:54:00.000-04:002007-10-07T07:54:00.000-04:00Tory -This is a hard post to respond to because I'...Tory -<BR/>This is a hard post to respond to because I'm not sure I know how to make readers identify with my characters.<BR/><BR/>Cathy -<BR/>Wouldn't itching powder in the massage oil harm innocent massage recipients? You have to think of something that will only affect him. For example, I was living in a communal house at one time and one of the housemates was taking other people's food. She had money; she didn't have to steal to eat. She would just take other people's food and, if confronted, deny it, even if you caught her in the pantry with your bread in one hand and your open jar of jelly in the other (which I did once -- she said, "I'm not eating your food."). So someone (not me) came up with the idea of baking a chocolate cake with x-lax, then leaving it in the refrigerator with one slice already cut out, telling everyone not to eat it. Well, the cake began to disappear and the thief began to spend a lot of time in the bathroom . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-52509551643556477142007-10-06T17:30:00.000-04:002007-10-06T17:30:00.000-04:00Alan: Gee, thanks!Glad to hear I have a compatrio...Alan: Gee, thanks!<BR/><BR/>Glad to hear I have a compatriot in the group process work AND the mental health field.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-62220859237064145382007-10-06T17:14:00.000-04:002007-10-06T17:14:00.000-04:00Tory, with degrees in social work as well as socio...Tory, with degrees in social work as well as sociology, my interest has always been in group dynamics. I have participated in many team building as well as role play activities. Over the years I have also conducted many of each. As you know, the underlying purpose of these activities is to have the participants EXPERIENCE something with others that they may not normally experience. <BR/><BR/>Not being a writer, I find your blog quite interesting. I never realized how writers do the same. Your goal is to have the reader experience what the characters are dealing with. <BR/><BR/>What a great blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-53453273053513576002007-10-06T17:02:00.000-04:002007-10-06T17:02:00.000-04:00Cathy: If he takes soemthing of yours (e.g. some m...Cathy: If he takes soemthing of yours (e.g. some massage oil) you might go up to him calmly and ask for it back, e.g., "I think you borrowed some of my massage oil, could I have it back now?" If he's the big baby, and thinks you should provide for him, that's giving him the message that it's not your job. If he's the antisocial personality disorder, trying to get away with something, at least he knows you're watching him, and he may choose to steal from someone who's more oblivious.<BR/><BR/>Just my thought, based on never having met the guy (or ever wanting to.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33226151.post-51909411619157025462007-10-06T16:45:00.000-04:002007-10-06T16:45:00.000-04:00I try to write fiction that the reader can identif...I try to write fiction that the reader can identify with, even if the situation may be new or unfamiliar. I use the six senses (no, I don't mean five) as much as I can and make the action as immediate as possible.<BR/><BR/>I'm having a conflict with the male therapist at work. He's there three of the four days I work at the Rivers Club. He has a definite attitude problem and can be downright strange and hurtful. I would like to develop some sort of role play so he can become accountable for his actions. <BR/><BR/>For instance, he takes things that aren't his. I'm thinking about leaving behind a bottle of oil with itching powder dissolved in it. Any ideas, Tory?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com